Born Naked But Not Empty

So what! If they trash talk you, is that supposed to define you? So you will put your life on hold, regret your actions, change your decisions, sink into depression and unhappiness because of some half baked story??? I have often wondered why humans (youth in particular) think they need other peoples' approval; no matter how hard they try, people will only know you as much as you want them to, So why bother what they say about you or think of you? People will always talk about your life, your beliefs, your family, your job, your choices, your failures and of course your victory..... that is their job!!! You give them an advantage over you if you allow them run your life with their opinions. Someone will ask me if that's THEIR JOB what is mine? There was a time in my life when I thought pleasing people, having them say only good things about me is all that matters to live right. Guess what..I realised I was trying so hard, putting in too much effort to live; I was unh

I am a dark skinned lady, a beautiful one at that and I am proud of my skin color... Imagine my shock when I met someone who thought my being dark skinned makes people uncomfortable and I should be apologetic about that instead of proud. You know at first I was on the verge of saying am sorry if my skin color makes you uncomfortable but I had to stop myself and instead said "I a m am who I am, can't be sorry for being dark skinned and I can't apologise for being me or for doing me....If you're uncomfortable, then you're your own problem...I am not your problem" We shouldnt apologize for being who we are, not for the way we walk, talk or look like. If I am not okay with something about myself then I can decide to change but nobody will shut down my self-esteem, make me unsure of myself or  think less of myself because he or she's got issues I know often times we overlook these things but if you have ever found yourself in a situation like I found myse